Why are introductions and first impressions so important? What is the art of the introduction? What is too little/too much? Too intimate/too general? What are the values and atmosphere we want to convey to someone at the very beginning? And could a good intro help us to personally clarify our own values and increase our own confidence? Are first impressions really that profoundly powerful? Could introductions even be a key component of our survival?!
I believe introductions offer the potential for social alchemy to arise. And magic to happen, and lives to change, and powers to unite!
What are your thoughts?… Please, share your comments below.
So, what are some ways to make a good first impression?
If you’re planning to step in front of someone who is important to your life mission whether that be on a date, your About page, a blog post, or via email correspondence, I want you to do so with clarity and confidence. So, here are five ways to rock the art of introduction and make a good first impression.
1. Decide how you want to make them feel. This is the most important thing. It is easy to forget what people say to us but we do not forget how they made us feel. If you want a “second date” with someone, focus on the positive emotions you can stir up in them from the beginning. Asking yourself how you want them to feel before you step in front of them will make it easier for you to engage with them in a way that is intention-based and powerful.
2. Show don’t tell. What I mean by this is give demonstrations when possible. Use stories or examples from your life to “show” them who you are and how you do what you do. Stories are much more captivating and clarifying than a job title or list of services. You can also provide proof of who you are by talking about your “why.” Why do you do what you do? Why is (blank) important to you? If (your) someone can relate to your “why” they will genuinely appreciate you and what you have to offer.
3. Less is more. Many psychology experiments have shown that our short-term memory can hold only a limited number of separate items. The average is about 7. People will remember more if you give them less to remember. For example providing a short list of your most exciting, inspiring, or helpful information is very effective. Don’t try to tell them everything on the first date. Instead, give them the opportunity to digest your bountiful creativity in several small portions. If you can offer brevity, do it. It’s a smart, kind way to interact with your fellow someone(s).
4. Help them. This could be as simple as making them smile, relax a little more, or feel heard. If you are hoping your introduction will lead to a work relationship of some kind, offer some advice or ideas in your area of expertise. Aim to help solve a problem they are dealing with. Remember how you want to make them feel. Try to figure out what is stressing or bumming them out and provide relief. This helps us too. Practicing how we can serve others leads to self-awareness about our unique gifts while simultaneously increasing our confidence.
5. Engage with them patiently. You can do this by simply asking them a question. Or offering them an opportunity to do something (non-committal) with you. Or giving a welcome gift, something simple and helpful for them to remember you by. In the beginning phases of introduction we are feeling each other out. Think about when you first meet someone. What do you need before you “commit” to a relationship? Time for trust to build up? Proof you can have fun with the person? Evidence of shared values? These are things to think about when you are inviting them to engage with you. Whatever your invitation is try not to rush in too quickly. And if you can, make the offer as easy/fun for them as possible.
The goal of an introduction should be to get (your) someone to take the next step with you. That step may simply be the willingness to keep watching you. Do not underestimate this privilege. Just because someone doesn’t schedule an appointment with you, buy your product, or reply to your email right away does not mean they won’t ever. First impressions are not the conclusion of an introduction. In fact, introductions are often a phase of first impressions.
So, If you really think the relationship can be life-giving for both you and the other person then you should keep showing up. Think about how you can make them feel good. Show them who you are. Do not overwhelm them. Help them when you can. And invite them to play with you!
Happy greetings and meetings!
Ps. If you are working on an introduction of any kind and you would appreciate some feedback, I’d be happy to take a look. Send me your draft at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Pps. Have someone in mind who you’d like to work with? Maybe these Asking Someone to Work With You — Email Templates can help.
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