We all know those people that just love to argue, love to get heated and “get their feelings hurt”. I might sound insensitive, but no! The insensitive thing would be to ignore that these people exist and that their feelings matter. First of all, if you find yourself in a situation with this sort of person, do the kind thing and give them what they want. It’s healthy to express our selves, after all. And you can’t end an argument that does not exist. So, for the sake of this article we must have one. You may be a lover not a fighter, but that doesn’t mean we are always surrounded by people alike. These people could be a best friend, a mother-in-law, a landlord, a sister, a whiny pubescent teenage time-bomb, whatever the case, I find these five tactics may lead to peaceful resolution.
Tactic # 1, Apathy: Apathy is a wonderful expression because it is neither submissive nor threatening. Simple dismissal or lack of emotion is usually very uninteresting in an argument. The antagonist often finds this dull and sees no point pursuing an unavailing attempt to fight with you.
Tactic # 2, Sarcasm: The word sarcasm is derived from a Greek word meant to describe the way wild dogs tear flesh off the bones of their prey. If you know how to use it, sarcasm is word artillery at its finest. The right comment with just enough sarcasm smeared on it will act fast and hit unexpectedly knocking the wind out of any confrontation. I would not recommend this strategy with authority figures. But for that “quippy” little preteen or adolescent, this is perfect.
Tactic # 3, Patronization: This has proved very effective with those particular breeds of people that are right no matter what. The question you want to stop and ask yourself in an argument with someone of this nature is “How many minutes of my life do I want to waste being unconditionally wrong?
A. Until I’m interrupted by a phone call?
B. Until the 3-4 minute song on the radio that I’m focusing all my attention to is over?
C. just long enough to realize I can’t even enjoy the song ’cause they’re talking over it?
D. Until my brain ruptures inside the skull acting as a defensive, self-destruct mechanism?
The answer is C, my friends and the solution is tell them whatever they want to hear and get on with your life.
Tactic # 4, Flattery: Flattery is your man, if you are looking for a win/win situation. You are in the middle of a meaningless squabble with your best friend, a simple complement or act of love puts you one step closer to reconciliation. Point out how nice it is that you have acquired the level of closeness necessary for this relentless bickering. Or comment on a new purse or pair of ear rings they are wearing. Not only does it make them feel good but it makes you feel good to say it.
Tactic # 5, Start to cry: Get those juices flowing. Squeeze out a few tears even better if you can pull off a full-fledged hysterical crying/breathing fit and really make them uncomfortable. Discomfort equals confusion equals defenses down. The situation may be weird for a moment but the awkward silence should end the argument effectively.
Good luck and remember peace is a choice. So love one another.
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I’m going to try these with myself, since that is who I fight with the most. I’ll let you know how it goes!